- Start by writing down your general beliefs.
For me this is an incredibly hard thing to do.
My beliefs are ingrained, and I do not really think about them. I am still identifying the beliefs I hold.
Some are pretty easy to identify.
Every has a right to their beliefs. I do not have the right to tell them what to believe.
I believe that killing is not right. Also, there are many forms of killing.
If a child is excited to give you a gift and you look at is an tell them everything, they did wrong – this is a form of killing.
A friend is really excited with their new outfit. You think it is the ugliest thing you have ever seen, and you tell them that.
You are inflicted your beliefs on someone else and in the process making them doubt themselves and feel bad.
It is not alright to tell a lie. (This sort of conflict with the previous belief.) I have learned that I can tell the truth without hurting others. No matter what I feel about something there is always good to be found.
Telling the child that you appreciate the effort and though that went into their gift.
Telling your friend that it is obvious that they love the outfit.
Others are a bit harder to figure out.
I recently had an experience where I was convinced that I would do nothing right. It was really weird in that the voice I heard was not my own. It was my grandmothers.
I had been told often in my childhood that I could do nothing wright. As an adult, I understand that my grandmother did not really mean it so I thought I did not have to worry about it.
Unfortunately, it came up in an on-line class I am taking where I keep forgetting specific steps. I would badger myself railing that I could to nothing right.
– this is situational and would not come up until a certain set of circumstance came up .
WE are not limited to non-supportive beliefs only. We have a lot of belief that are very supportive.
I can talk to people and make them feel better.
Smiling and acknowledging other, improves their day. Write down beliefs about anything you feel strongly about and that influences your daily life.
Group them into different categories like finances, family, relationships, or health.
Identify if the belief is helping you grow, and which could be limiting you.
This is on an ongoing process. Sometimes a belief will not show up until you a presented with a specific situation, expect this process to continue throughout your life. - Assess Your Behavior
Another approach to identifying limiting beliefs is assessing your behavior.
Think about scenarios where you’ve acted in toxic ways. If you look closely at your toxic behaviors, you might discover that the underlying cause is limiting beliefs.
For instance, if you find it difficult to speak your mind when someone has offended you, you may possess the limiting belief that conflict is bad.
This, in turn, could keep you from having truly intimate relationships as you’re unable to speak your mind and have healthy confrontations. - Write Down Areas Where You Feel Challenged
Record areas of your life where you have recurring challenges, these could be indicative of limiting beliefs.
Perhaps you can’t seem to land a well-paid job, or you never have luck when it comes to love.
These challenges may simply be the byproduct of erroneous beliefs that you’ve adopted as truths.
As you identify each belief, make a note of which beliefs make you feel tight, uncomfortable unworthy or any other unsupportive emotion.
So, if you’re always struggling to make enough money, uncover what you think about money and how accessible it is to you.
