While our limiting beliefs can be unique, many of us struggle with the same core themes. They tend to cluster around three critical areas of life: Money, Love, and our fundamental sense of Worthiness.
This week, we’re applying last week’s reframing technique to these “Big Three.” See if any of these sound familiar.
1. The Money Belief: “I Have to Work Hard to Make Money” / “Money is Scarce”
This belief keeps you stuck in a cycle of burnout and scarcity. It tells you that ease and abundance are not for you.
- The Old Story: Money is the root of all evil. You have to trade your life force for it. There’s never enough.
- Challenge it: Is it true that every wealthy person works 100 hours a week? Can money be used for good? Is it possible that value, not just hard labor, creates wealth?
- The New Story (Reframe): “I create value with ease and am open to receiving abundance.” or “Money flows to me from expected and unexpected sources.” or “I am a responsible and grateful steward of my financial resources.”
- Embody It: Invest in a course to learn a high-value skill. Start a “side hustle” that you enjoy. Track your income and celebrate every dollar.
2. The Love Belief: “I’m Not Lovable” / “All the Good Ones Are Taken”
This belief leads to self-sabotage in relationships or avoiding them altogether. It convinces you that you must settle or be alone.
- The Old Story: I have to be perfect to be loved. Love is painful and always ends. I’m too damaged/old/complicated.
- Challenge it: Is there anyone in the world with flaws who is in a happy relationship? (Yes, everyone!) Have you ever felt love, even for a moment?
- The New Story (Reframe): “I am worthy of a loving, healthy, and supportive partnership.” or “I attract love by being my authentic self.” or “I am open to giving and receiving love.”
- Embody It: Take yourself on a date. Write a list of all the things you love about yourself. Set and enforce a healthy boundary with someone.
3. The Worthiness Belief: “I Am Not Good Enough”
This is the master belief that fuels all the others. It’s the feeling that, at your core, you are fundamentally flawed.
- The Old Story: I need to achieve X, Y, and Z to be worthy. My worth is determined by my productivity, appearance, or others’ opinions.
- Challenge it: Were you “good enough” as a baby? Did you have to do anything to deserve love then? Where did you learn that your inherent worth was conditional?
- The New Story (Reframe): “My worth is inherent and unconditional.” or “I am enough, exactly as I am right now.” or “I approve of myself and release the need for external validation.”
- Embody It: Spend 5 minutes in silence just being with yourself. Forgive yourself for a past mistake. Say “no” to something that drains you.
Confronting these big beliefs is life-changing. Pick the one that resonates most and start rewriting its story today. Next week, we’ll talk about how to make these new beliefs stick for the long haul.
