First Step Towards Authenticity and Fulfillment

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This is the first installment in a series of posts on the journey to discovering our authentic selves. While I can’t predict the exact number of posts needed, I’m committed to crafting a process that I hope will aid everyone on their individual journeys.

We’re all on a journey to our authentic selves, whether we realize it or not.  This is a lifelong journey that we can take either unconsciously or consciously.

The unconscious path can often feel chaotic, overwhelming, and ultimately lead to confusion or dissatisfaction. Without conscious awareness or guidance, individuals may face numerous challenges and obstacles that are difficult to navigate.

On the other hand, a conscious path involves deliberate and intentional steps towards self-awareness, self-reflection, and personal growth. Unlike the unconscious route, which can be tumultuous, the conscious path is marked by clarity, purpose, and mindfulness.

The conscious path to authenticity is empowering and liberating. It enables us to embrace our uniqueness, express ourselves authentically, and live in alignment with our deepest truths. By committing to this journey with intention and mindfulness, we can cultivate profound fulfillment, meaning, and inner peace in our lives.

Throughout this journey, we actively engage in practices and activities that foster self-discovery and alignment with our true essence. This may include meditation, journaling, therapy, self-inquiry, and seeking guidance from mentors or coaches.

As we deepen our understanding of ourselves, we gain clarity about our passions, desires, and life’s purpose. We can than make conscious choices aligned with our true values and aspirations, rather than being dictated by external influences or unconscious patterns.

I firmly believe that the first step on the conscious path to authenticity is to discover who we are in the present moment. We need to understand ourselves before we can embark on the journey towards being our authentic self.

One of the simplest ways to begin this process of self-discovery is through journaling. Journaling is a deeply personal practice with no set rules. Personally, I use three journals: a dream journal, a nighttime dump journal, and an everything-else journal.

The dream journal is where I record my dreams, look up their meanings, and interpret what they may indicate about my subconscious.

The nighttime dump journal is utilized when I have trouble sleeping due to negative thoughts and emotions. Writing them down helps clear my mind and allows me to rest peacefully. Unlike the other journals, I don’t revisit this one. Once the thoughts are out, I prefer to leave them behind.

The everything-else journal is where I jot down daily thoughts, emotions, events, meditations, memorable quotes, and anything else that comes to mind. This is the journal I review the most, as it helps me track my growth and identify my limiting beliefs.

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to journaling. The process is as unique as we are. I provide journaling prompts on the website and a journaling freebie to help you get started on your journey of self-discovery.

When I am writing in my everything journaling, I find that there is certain information I include on each entry. They are:

Date and Time: This helps track your progress and provides context for your reflections.

Location:  Home, Office, Daughters’ house, hotel in city/State/Country

Emotions and Mood: Describe your current emotional state and mood. Are you feeling happy, sad, anxious, or excited? This helps you become more aware of your emotions and how they impact your thoughts and actions.

At the start of the day, I like to include

Goals and Intentions: Set intentions or goals for the day or the future. What do you hope to accomplish or focus on? Writing down your goals helps clarify your priorities and holds you accountable.

Gratitude: Take a moment to express gratitude for the things you appreciate in your life. This could be people, experiences, opportunities, or even small moments of joy.

I know that these two items can set the whole mood for the day.

There is some information that is important to me but may not be in each entry:

Events and Activities: Write about significant events or activities that occurred during the day. This could include interactions with others, experiences, challenges, or achievements.

Thoughts and Reflections: Reflect on your thoughts, beliefs, and perceptions. What are you thinking about? Are there any recurring patterns or themes? Write down any insights or realizations you have about yourself or the world around you.

Challenges and Solutions: Identify any challenges or obstacles you’re facing and brainstorm potential solutions or strategies to overcome them. Writing about challenges can help you gain perspective and find ways to address them constructively.

Self-Care Practices: Record any self-care activities or practices you engaged in during the day. This could include exercise, meditation, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones. Reflect on how these activities make you feel and their impact on your well-being.

Quotes or Inspiration: Include any quotes, affirmations, or inspiration that resonates with you. These can serve as reminders of your values, beliefs, or goals.

Future Reflection: Consider ending your journal entry with a question or prompt for future reflection. This encourages you to continue exploring the topic in subsequent entries and fosters ongoing self-awareness and growth.

There are times when I really don’t know what to write. If there is something stuck in my brain, I will often seek prompts to help me organize my thoughts. There are prompts list on the Journaling page that may help. I also update these prompts regularly.

The process I am describing in these posts is my process. Not all steps will be right for everyone. Feel free to incorporate the steps that are right for you an ignore the rest,

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5 Tips To Build Confidence Your Confidence Levels

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Are you feeling bored in a day-to-day routine? Do you wish you could get out of your comfort zone but don’t know how to start? Maybe there is something you have always wanted to try but you’re afraid or unmotivated. You are not alone! Most people feel this way at some point in their life. Here are five proven strategies to build confidence and overcome fears.

Learn Something New

Start with an achievable goal and to set higher goals as you accomplish them to keep you motivated. While engaging in new skills, you might discover a talent that gives you a sense of purpose or a creative outlet.

Your brain is capable of change and growth at all stages of life. According to Piedmont.org, the brain’s prefrontal cortex thickens when learning new skills demonstrating a physiological change that correlates with higher IQ and better memory.

As we learn, we build confidence in different areas of life and shut down fear and anxiety. In continuing to learn new skills, you can actually expand your comfort zone instead of just stepping out of it temporarily.

Engage in Physical Activity

While any physical activity is beneficial to health and wellbeing there are a couple of stand outs that can improve your confidence quickly and reliably.

Prevention.com found that both yoga and resistance training improve mood and reduce symptoms of depression.

Resistance training is ideal for lasting changes and developing confidence via body image. Yoga can boost confidence almost instantly by improving your mood and posture.

Helping Others

Helping others can give you a sense of purpose and alter your mindset. As you begin to shift the focus from yourself to others you will likely find that it feels good to be of service and out of your own world.

Volunteering, tutoring, and mentoring are all ways that you can step out of your comfort zone and gain confidence at the same time.

According to Livingwell.org, giving and cooperating with others stimulates reward areas in the brain. Those who participate in voluntary service generally have higher self-esteem and better physical and mental health.

Mindfulness

Being present can be a huge confidence booster. People spend too much time dwelling on things they cannot change and making mountains out of molehills. Untangle yourself from the constant stream of unhelpful thoughts.

There are many valuable apps available to try meditation if you need more structure or guidance. Mindfulness results in improved mood and reduced anxiety among other benefits. You can use specific meditations or mantras to boost confidence and motivation to move toward your specific goals.

Limit Social Media

Spending too much time on social media can negatively impact your mental health and confidence. While there are positive ways to use these platforms, too many of us fall into the cycle of scrolling and comparing ourselves to others’ curated lives.

Do you make inspirational boards of things that you want to do someday?

Pick one of those things and do it!

Selecthealth.org found the average person is on social media for two hours per day and suggests limiting that time to thirty minutes. With all that extra time you can accomplish the other things on this list as well!

Final Thoughts

It is never too late to start making positive changes in your life. Confidence and getting out of your comfort zone are things that work hand in hand and depend on the amount of effort you put in.

The more you accomplish, the more confident you will feel and the more your comfort zone will expand. Employ these five tips in your life then get out there and make the most of it!

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Finding an Accountability Partner You Can Count On

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Are you tired of struggling to overcome bad habits that are preventing you from living the life you truly deserve? If so, an accountability partner might just be the powerful tool to help you break free from the negative patterns that are holding you back so that you can reach your goals. But how do you find an accountability partner you can count on?

Look for Someone Who Shares Your Values and Goals

It’s important to find an accountability partner who is aligned with your values and goals. This will help ensure that they are motivated to support you and hold you accountable for the changes you’re trying to make. Of course, this means you must know your own personal principles, morals, and values well, so you know whether someone is a good fit for you.

Consider Finding Someone Who Has Already Successfully Overcome Similar Challenges

If you’re trying to overcome a bad habit, finding an accountability partner who has already successfully overcome a similar challenge can be helpful. They can provide valuable insights and strategies for overcoming your own struggles. However, understand that what works for one person might not work for another. Fully understand the commitment you’ll be making by finding someone who is already successful, because you’ll need to be willing to do what they did.

Choose Someone You Trust and Respect

An accountability partner should be someone you trust and respect. This will help you feel comfortable confiding in them and seeking their support. But, of course, the best way to know if they’re trustworthy is to find someone you know by reputation to be widely respected and trusted – whether that’s due to the friends who recommend them or due to other factors. Doing your due diligence here is imperative.

Make Sure You Both Have the Time and Energy to Commit to the Relationship

An accountability partnership requires regular check-ins and support. Make sure you both have the time and energy to commit to this relationship fully. You don’t want to choose someone who has no free time at all and who will put the relationship on the back burner. You need someone who will commit at least as much as you’re willing to commit.

Consider Finding an Accountability Partner Online

If you don’t have anyone in your personal network who fits the bill, consider looking for an accountability partner online. Many online communities and forums are specifically designed to connect with accountability partners. If you still can’t find someone to work with you for free to help each other overcome harmful and negative habits, consider hiring an accountability coach. Sometimes paying someone is the best choice.

Once you’ve found an accountability partner, it’s vital to establish clear expectations and boundaries for your relationship. For example, you may want to set specific goals, schedule regular check-ins, and agree on the types of support and accountability you need in writing to formalize the relationship.

With a reliable accountability partner by your side, you’ll have the support and encouragement to overcome bad habits and create the life you truly deserve. Don’t hesitate to reach out and find someone to help you through accountability on your journey to success.

The Awakening Tulip’s Accountability Buddy program is a program designed to help individuals stay accountable and achieve their goals, similar to a buddy system or partnership where individuals support and motivate each other in their pursuits.

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The Risks You Take When You Don’t See the Doctor

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“Out of sight, out of mind.”

“What you don’t know can’t hurt you.”

Two powerful old-school statements that are used to protect our egos from reality. When it comes to health issues, neither statement has any wisdom. In fact, what you don’t pay attention to can cause great harm if left unmanaged.

Typically, healthcare comes from the standpoint of treating illnesses, diseases, and injuries as they come up. A reaction to a problem rather than preventing problems. While there is nothing wrong with seeking medical interventions when sickness or injury is present, there are great benefits to preventing injuries and illnesses before they happen.

There are many reasons that people do not seek medical help:

  • Lack of education on the benefits of medical care
  • No access to medical care
  • No insurance or income for medical care
  • Religious beliefs
  • Influences in the media
  • Cultural beliefs
  • And more…

No matter the reason, the results can be dire. The risks you take when you don’t see a doctor can be catastrophic, even deadly! One Instagram account, Nicole Angemi, MS, PA @mrs_angemi hosts an educational account that features the devastating realities for men, women, and children who do not seek medical care. Amongst her posts of medical mysteries, freak accidents, and diseases, are autopsies and other posts about preventable diseases that went undiagnosed and/or untreated. Angemi regularly shares that the predominant reasons people do not seek medical care are ignorance, income, or lack of access to medical care.   

What are the risks you take when you don’t see a doctor?

Increased risk of preventable illness and disease- Whether you have annual exams and specialized screenings or seek medical care when prompted by illness or injury, seeing the physician is the best way to prevent or recover. When you don’t see a physician, you increase the risks for developing preventable diseases or illnesses.

Things like:

  • Diabetes
  • High cholesterol
  • Heart disease
  • Cancer
  • Bone density issues
  • And more…

Many diseases and malfunctions within the systems of the body have few or no warning signs and lack of education can prevent the warning signs from being effective. Not seeing the physician can cause permanent damage from preventable issues.

Increased risk of hurting others- There is an increase of parents choosing not to vaccinate their children. While the reasoning behind this decision is up for debate, the result of not vaccinating children is undeniable. Children who have not been immunized against communicable disease are themselves at risk and put other members of the population at risk as well. Diseases like polio, measles, and other public health issues can easily affect the young, the frail, and those with compromised immune systems.

Men and women with untreated STD (sexually transmitted diseases) can infect others when they have unprotected sex. Not seeking proper medical treatment for an STD can create an epidemic of infected people as well as cause sterilization and other reproductive illnesses.

Needless suffering- Untreated illnesses, diseases, and injuries can morph into far worse issues. Ignoring, avoiding, or not treating an issue can cause pain and suffering that is needless and preventable. Not seeing a physician can leave you and those who care for you or rely on you in great pains as well. Lost days of work, chronic illness, and permanent disability may be in the forecast without treatment.

Early mortality- The fact is, untreated illnesses, diseases, and injuries can reduce life span. From prevention to treatment, seeing a physician can prolong lifespan and give the best quality of life regardless of any diagnosis.

There is great risk from not seeing a doctor. Being prevention-minded and seeking medical care when illness and injury occur is the best way to prevent needless suffering and prolong a better quality of life.

See the other articles in the series:

  1. Should You Go to the Doctor if You are Healthy?
  2. 3 Reasons You Should See the Doctor Every Year

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Using Mindful Eating to Get to a Healthy Weight

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If asked, most people would report that they eat for reasons other than health, community, and experience. They would likely be eating while distracted, overeating, not really tasting their food, and oblivious to where the food originated from or went through on its way to their plates or to-go containers.

Mindful eating is the act and art of really paying attention to all aspects of food consumption. From the origins and history of the food to the messages our bodies give when it comes to eating. Being mindful can be a powerful tool towards maintaining a healthy weight.

There are various forms of mindful eating. From highly formalized mindful eating experiences to just paying attention to your body and your mealtime – and everything in between. Whether you participate in a guided mindfulness course or simply begin to think about what you eat and when you eat it, there are some general ways to practice mindful eating.

Let’s look at some ways that we are mindless and mindful with our eating:

Mindless Eating

  • Oblivious to where our food comes from
  • Unaware of appropriate portions
  • Eating past being full
  • Emotion-driven eating
  • Eating in our car
  • Eating convenience foods

Mindful Eating

  • Preparing home-cooked foods
  • Raising a garden or shopping farmers markets
  • Thinking about food origins
  • Eating whole foods
  • Eating when your body indicates it’s hungry
  • Stopping when full

Mindless eating- Mindless eating is easy to fall into because we live in a country of convenience and don’t make food preparation or eating a priority in our day. Eating is a function that is driven by emotion or energy levels. On the whole – outside of Foodies and food-focused professionals – Americans are driven by convenience for eating. They are barraged by ads and marketing that lures them from fresh whole foods to convenient and popular fad foods. Many times, they feel they are eating well because of clever marketing, but generally they are overeating, undernourished, and overweight.

Mindful eating- Mindful eating begins with two independent things: humans who are hungry and food. Humans who are hungry are compelled to eat. Mindful eaters are aware of their hunger; they are motivated to take specific and intentional action to obtain, prepare, and consume whole foods. The food aspect of mindful eating includes the growth of foods with care and ethics, the cultivation of plants and animals in humane and ethical ways, and the preparation of food with consideration and love. Eating becomes an event and savoring the food is something that takes time and appreciation.

You don’t have to become an organic farmer to be mindful with your eating. Be present and aware of what you are buying and thinking about what it took for that plant to end up on your chopping block is a great first step. Making whole food meals, eating with your loved ones, and not rushing the process is another step. Engaging your family and friends during the meal and talking about the food is an ideal way to be more mindful. The more you pay attention to what you eat, how it makes you feel, and the experiences you have, the easier it is to manage your weight and be very intentional about what goes into your body.

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