Have you ever witnessed a two-and-a-half-year-old child have a meltdown for what seems like no reason at all? Parents of toddlers know that oftentimes, the child doesn’t really know what it is that they want. They can’t yet articulate their desires clearly enough to avoid the emotional meltdown.

The best way to help a toddler through the cognitive process of asking for help is to get them talking out loud. The process of talking helps them identify the pieces of the puzzle in their mind, and helps them start to put those pieces together. Soon we realize that she wants her dolly to eat a bowl of pretend mashed potatoes while she rides the unicorn.

Nothing much changes as we develop into adulthood. We sometimes need to process out loud to figure things out. Our mind can work in loops. We go over and over the things that weigh on us, and sometimes the only way to break the loop is to speak out loud with someone else who can help us process those thoughts.

Asking out loud helps you figure out what you want, because there is someone else in the conversation to ask clarifying questions. These questions require you to sort through the issue and get very clear on what you need in the way of help.

Having someone to process with you isn’t the only way to verbally sort through and identify what you really want. You can have a conversation with yourself when no one else is available. Speaking and processing out loud is no different than practicing a speech or public speaking. The more you hear your own voice, the better you can identify with what is being said. Things always sound clearer when spoken aloud than when heard in our minds.

Try recording yourself and replaying the one-way conversation. These voice notes are a great way to process out loud and you can go back to review the ideas and details. This is a perfect way of capturing information when the issue is at the top of your mind -whether you are driving, exercising, or otherwise unable to write anything down. Most smartphones have a voice note app factory-installed.

Sometimes the best way to sort through a problem and ask for help is to process the issue out loud in conversation. Whether you have the help of a friend, your smartphone, or are speaking to no one in particular, the act of speaking out loud helps you figure out what you really want. From there you can prepare to get the help you need.

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